Valentine of Mind

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

QUOTE FOR TODAY: “She is a friend of mind. She gather me, man. The pieces I am, she gather them and give them back to me in all the right order. It’s good, you know, when you got a woman who is a friend of your mind.” ~Toni Morrison, Beloved

THOUGHT FOR TODAY: Today, I’d like to talk about the voice in our head that keeps us from making progress with our intentions.

Often the loudest voice in our head is the rantings of a saboteur. I like to refer to her as “the bad girlfriend” because if she were a real woman I would have nothing to do with her.

Unfortunately, she lives inside my mind and took resident there long ago. Maybe you have met her she is easy to forget. She is the voice that encourages you with words like “Who do you think you are?” or “You aren’t a very good mom” or “You are a bad friend”. She makes keen observations like “Man, You look old today”, “Wow, you’ve put on a few pounds.” She inspires you with “You never were any good at that, what makes today different?”

The bad girlfriend knows every button of your mind. She runs your life in stealth mode. Her objective is to keep you in a small place where she holds all the controls. Every time you try to make a change she is there telling you what your limitations are, why it’s not safe and why you really shouldn’t ever try.

The first step to dealing with the bad girlfriend is to identify her voice and what comes up for you when she is speaking.

Do you feel uplifted or taken down a notch? Do you feel like you need to work harder or longer? These are her identifying features. Notice your indicators, does your blood pressure go up? Do you feel anxious or paralyzed? DO YOU FEEL LIKE GIVING UP?

When you start to notice her she begins to lose control and you get back the keys to moving forward towards a bigger more spacious life. You get to room to breathe, think, strategize and take action.

When the bad girl friend is on the run, you can begin to pursue the dreams that catch your heart.

Become a friend of your mind, protect and guard it from inside out. Listen to the voice that brings you light, balance and wholeness. Listen to the voice that champions you to step outside your comfort zone and go for it!

The consequences of never hearing your truth are immense. I ran across this quote the other day that says it so well,

“So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key.” ~The Eagles, “Already Gone”

In what way is the bad girlfriend-saboteur still calling the shots in your life? What are you committed to do to put her on the run today? Do this and you will be giving your mind a Valentine.

Wishing you a sweet Day!

Kathy Vick C.L.C.
Life Coach, Author, Speaker
503 886 9642

Want to know more about coaching? Email me at kathy@runlikeagirl.org

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